The Power of Your Own Words: Writing Wedding Vows with Heart
- SpringHaus Farm Weddings
- May 26
- 4 min read
The Power of Your Own Words: Writing Wedding Vows with Heart
There’s a quiet kind of magic that floats through the air at SpringHaus Farm, where golden sunlight catches on the picturesque pine tree ceremony space, the breeze carries laughter, and the barn doors open to the next chapter of your love story. Amid the grandeur of the day, it’s the words you speak to each other, vows written from your heart, that often linger the longest.
Writing your own vows is more than a ceremonial step, it’s a deeply personal declaration. It’s where memory, promise, vulnerability, and vision collide. And when you choose to write your vows by hand, in your own script, you’re not just writing words. You’re creating a keepsake, a letter that will be treasured for years to come.
At SpringHaus Farm, we believe in the beauty of intentional moments, and what could be more intentional than choosing every word that speaks your love aloud?
The Power of Your Own Words: Writing Wedding Vows with Heart
Why Your Handwritten Vows Matter
Your wedding day will be a blur of celebration, hugs, tears, and more than likely some really good cake crumbs. But in those few quiet moments, when you look into the eyes of your forever person (or touch of their hand for those non-first look couples) and speak your truth, well those moments are absolutely grounding. They are sacred. And when your vows are written in your own hand, they become more than a speech. They become a letter from your heart.
Your vows are something to revisit on anniversaries, during challenging seasons, or while curled up together on a rainy day. They are the unique fingerprint of your love in that moment. Handwriting them makes them tangible, real, and uniquely yours.
8–10 Things to Consider When Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
Whether you're writing at one of the rustic farmhouse tables in The Barn at SpringHaus Farm, or watching the sun crest over the pine trees while journaling, here are some meaningful things to keep in mind:
Start with your story: Reflect on your journey together. Where did it begin? What moments shaped your love? Speak from that shared foundation.
Speak from the heart, not from a script: You don’t need to sound like a poet or an author. Just sound like you. Speak your truth plainly and sincerely.
Write as if they’ll read it in 50 years: Let these vows be something you will both hold onto, not just for the ceremony, but as a timeless reminder of what you promise.
Be specific: Instead of general phrases like “I’ll always love you,” try, “I will love you when we are sipping coffee on cold mornings and even when we are arguing over what to watch.” Find something that holds meaning or may make your partner inside joke laugh.
Acknowledge the real and the raw: Marriage isn’t always perfect. Recognizing that, and committing to love through it, that is what makes your vows real.
Infuse a touch of humor (if that’s your style): A little laughter never hurts. If your relationship thrives on humor, let it peek through.
Limit the length: Keep it around 1–2 minutes. Long enough to share meaning, yet short enough to keep the moment powerful.
Practice out loud: Read them out loud a few times before the big day, feel the words, tweak what doesn’t flow, and get comfortable with your emotions.
Write it by hand: Use a journal, a piece of stationery, vow booklet, or even a page torn from a notebook. Your handwriting is you, and that adds a deeply personal layer.
Store it somewhere safe: After the ceremony, place your vows somewhere you’ll revisit, maybe in a keepsake box or framed in your home.
SpringHaus Farm doing private vows under pine tree ceremony space Photo Cred: Keri L Photography
Love grows with time, just like the pine trees around our farm. Your vows are the seeds, planted intentionally, with care and courage. Writing them yourself is an act of love, one that echoes beyond the ceremony. And when you revisit them, hopefully yearly, they’ll speak just as strongly.
So take the time. Pour your heart out. Let the ink flow.
After all, your love deserves more than a template!
Looking for a quiet place to reflect and write? Ask us about weekday visits to the farm to soak in the stillness and let your words find their way.
With love and warmth,
The SpringHaus Farm Team
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